Guess who remembered her password?? :)

Ugh. Okay. I finally remembered my password for this thing. And just in the nick of time. For anyone who doesn't want to be bothered with my vent/rant for today (and today only, I promise!) I will provide Cliffnotes for today's post (CN).

CN: Fiance is treated really unfairly at home. We want to move out, but realistically we can't, and it would probably just cause more problems. Therefore, I vent.

Post: Okay, let me say that yes, I do live with my fiance and his family at his mom's house. But before you judge me, I had the worst home life you could imagine, from parents to neighbors to being slave driven by an obsessive parent. So, my fiance's mom let me move in with them when I was 17. We have only recently begun sharing a room, after we hit the 3 1/2 years of dating mark. (Now at over 4 years.) In a sense, living with them has made me such a better person who can handle situations in such a calmer way.

Fastforward to now. My fiance's brother is, for lack of a kinder term, a bum. I know this sounds mean, but let me continue. He will be 21 in less than a week. Since he graduated high school, he has worked a total of four months, and he quit that job over a year ago. He sits and plays video games and does nothing around the house. I repeat, absolutely nothing. Not dishes or laundry or even take out the trash.

Now, fiance's brother is also engaged and they are raising her (but not his) daughter. By raising, I mean they take her child support checks and go by things for themselves (clothes, shoes, video games, junk food, movie rentals, etc.) and then beg the baby's real father's mom for money for diapers and such. She does not work (has lived with us for almost a year; her daughter is 15 months old). She does not do anything around the house either. She sits around and plays on facebook and watches TV. Nor does she take care of her daughter. My fiance and I do most of the time (usually me because he is at work). She tends to send her off to various family members/friends of family members for four and five days at a time (sometimes a full week) and then when her daughter comes home, she complains constantly that she needs another "break" from her. Also, she brought along a charming little dog with her, who is not - I repeat, NOT - house trained in the least. Yet, even though it is not our dog, my fiance and I usually have to clean up said dog's "presents".

Anyway, here is my fiance's schedule for the week. School Monday through Thursday. Work five to six days a week. Homework. And then, along with all of this, the dishes, laundry, take out the trash, etc. I try to help fiance out as much as I can, but this usually means I do some of the laundry and, since we have most of the same classes, I make study guides for him to read over at work.

Now, to give his mom the benefit of the doubt, she does tell them both to get jobs and help out around the house. Do they? Of course not. Does she make them? Not even a little.

Ugh. Just frustrated. I am so tired of everything that they won't do being picked up by my fiance (or me) to do. Because, notice I say by my fiance or me. Not his mom. She says she shouldn't have to do it. Well, neither should he! But that doesn't matter. As long as the part-time mommy and bum are doing what they do best (nothing) are happy, then she is happy. The end of rant.

I feel better now. Sigh.